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I also think that those who should have but didn’t investigate the bullying and taken steps to prevent such happening in the future should also be held accountable. e.g. teachers not taking action if victim is a studentI'm seeing a lot of comments saying things like "this person had other things going on, the bullying alone wasn't a factor" and "they didn't force anyone to commit suicide."
Both statements are true, but there is a severe lack of understanding for how a bully can play into the decision to kill yourself. If you're depressed, feeling bad about yourself, and suicide is on your mind, someone else saying "you're an ugly piece of shit", "no one loves you", "you should kill yourself", "your family hates you" etc will be the ultimate trigger that results in that person saying "ok, this life ain't worth it."
There are multiple, multiple examples of bullying being either a main factor or one of, but here's a few.
Of course, bullying happens to adults as well, however, I wanted to specifically point out children because a lot of the children who have killed themselves "didn't have other things going on", they were normal kids trying to find their place in the world. The truth is, bullies deserve manslaughter charges if the victim takes their own life. Nothing anyone ever says will change this. They contributed to the decision which led to a loss of life.
- A video was posted online where a 14 year old girl was walking through the halls of the school with her boyfriend. The video shows kids attacking her. After the incident, she received screenshots and videos of the incident, with nasty comments. She killed herself.
- Another 14 year old girl took her life after being bullied for 3 years and nothing was ever done. This started when she was 11. Her mother said at that time when she was 11, she [the mom] started noticing physical signs of bullying and scars and cuts on her daughter's arms.
- A 15 year old boy took his life after being bullied, which included being pants'd (pulling down his pants in public).
I have been a victim of both offline and online bullying, the online part still going on. I would say, the impact is huge, and I'm starting to heal only now that I have created a place of my own where my online bully will not be welcome. She found & followed me on "all sites", even though she's from the US somehow learned my mother tongue to call me out, and most forum administrators/mods look the other way when something like that happens. Some of the evidence is "not from on their site" and since they're careful to not explicitly break site rules - the "I know it's about me but they didn't explicitly mention me by name, but something like 'no man that posted on this page' and yours is the only post from a woman" - they go free.
While I admit I have stuff going on in offline life too, not having a safe place anywhere, not even online, is extremely stressful and hits my "you should even not have been born"-buttons over & over again.
I will not tolerate bullying on my site, and I took great care in not inviting members from other places where I knew they clashed, only inviting one side of any argument. I may not be able to prevent the other side joining under a different name, but I will warn & ban upon these "just below the water" stabs if I see them.
I'm doing much better since I created my own place, thank you.It really is sad the lengths some people will go to in order to make themselves feel better by being a dick to someone else. I'm sad you also had negative experience with staff members, who should have 100% acted and told the person to knock it off, and/or ban them when the time came. Hopefully you're getting better. ❤